Monday, February 3, 2014

Life lessons

You asked me last night why you get crapped on when you put so much effort into someone? I didn't give you a good answer. So here's the better answer. It may not be the best answer and it may not be the right answer, but it is a better answer.

You  got crapped on because the person you were investing all this time and effort into wasn't yourself. Society tells us we must be all things to all people, but it fails to give us the heads up that we have to be selfish sometimes and just do us in order to have anything to give anyone else. It is a common mistake to think that you can change someone else. The only person you can change is yourself. This is especially true if you are dealing with any type of addiction. You can show them how much better it would be if they would just do XYand Z, but until they make the decision to better themselves, it will be pointless.

We are always here for you. When you are ready to get out of the position you are in, all you have to do is say "I'm ready" and we will ALL be there with bells on. And you know, we have one hell of a Calvary. "You is smart, you is kind, you is important" and I hope you remember that in the coming days when the self doubt hits. Just remember, I know that you can do anything you set yourself to do, you just have to want it bad enough to follow through. So you goofed, it's okay, we all goof. Sometimes we manage to extricate ourselves from the goof intact, sometimes it takes a chunk out of our hide in the process. It is only failure if you don't learn from it.

Monday, November 25, 2013

I'm rich!

Normally I don't post about work, but today I am making an exception because it was so incredibly sweet and so true.

Admitted a patient with an arm fracture yesterday. She was elderly and had many other things going on with her health. As I'm going through the admission process with her, we talk about several things including children. Yesterday was slower than normal and I was able to spend a bit of time in her room just getting to know her. We spoke of favorite books, authors, music and composers, and again of children. As I was telling her about my crew, she had this look of delight on her face. I asked her if she would like to see a picture of my crew at which point she said "of course!" with great enthusiasm. So I pulled out my phone and showed her pics of hubby and the kids. Her response was beautiful. "How rich you are with your family".
I agreed with her and we continued on with the rest of the day, but her words stuck with me so I am sharing them with you today.

Yes, I am rich beyond measure and it has nothing to do with money, career, or status and everything to do with the blessings I have in my family.

So as we near the Thanksgiving holiday and black Friday madness, don't forget the real meaning of being "rich".

Wednesday, October 30, 2013

Catching up or catching my breath

It's been a while (does anyone else cue the Staind song when they read that?) since I've posted on here. Life has definitely been speeding along at a breakneck pace.  Let's see, we went to Madison for the Regatta, went to Detroit for the Goldcup a week later, several trips to Illinois, and our own particular brand of chaos with work, school, and band activities.

I changed apartments in August, as well as celebrated my 18th anniversary. August also brought the beginning of the school year with changes for Boo and little man. Boo got a new band director and little man is going to a new school. Both issues have had their own hurdles and challenges. All I can say is, this too shall pass.

Work has been interesting with a new patient care model being rolled out on our sister unit. I'm withholding judgement till I work over there a few more times. Sometimes what looks good and makes sense on paper, doesn't work out like we think it will. The fall season also means we get nursing students on our unit to shepherd through clinicals. These students are curious, bright eyed and, very willing to ask good questions and to jump in to learn new things, I'm sure they will go far as they finish out their schooling. I found out that the baby nurse that I precepted this summer will be speaking at her class's Pinning ceremony in May. So proud of her!

Speaking of pinning. My SIL will be graduating with her BSN in December. She has grown SOOOO much as a human being in the last 4 years and I couldn't be more proud of her. So on December 14th we will celebrate all of her hard work and success.

It's cold wet and rainy outside today so I'm not quite sure what to do with myself. I don't want to stay cooped up all day, but then again, I don't want to go outside and get wet! Oh well, I'm sure I'll think of something to get into. Hope everyone has a safe and happy Halloween! Till next time.

Friday, July 19, 2013

Odds and Ends

It's been a bit crazy around here for the past few weeks. I haven't seen Tn for what seems like an eternity in between working and mini-vacations.

1st off after my last post was the Madison Regatta the weekend after July 4th. Unfortunately mother nature decided to sulk and the Ohio river was too high to race the boats. The upside was that we got to spend more time with family than we usually do.

Last weekend was the Gold Cup in Detroit. Had some fun in the sun watching some great boat racing (even if our favorite driver got shafted in the final). Little man got to meet Steve David several times (his idol) and had some great conversations with him over the course of the weekend as well as getting to spend time with his cousins. Harlee couldn't quit smiling at all the photo subject matter with the boats and people (even if she killed the camera battery half way through Sunday lol). I think she wants to go next year.

This week at work has been CRAZY!!! I have decided that I really dislike doing 3 days in a row because I am beat at the end of it. Still love my job though (and Louisville, much to hubby's chagrin).

Yesterday was my externs last day. I am sad to see her go, but I know that she will do great things as she finishes school and decides where she wants to go from there. She gave me a beautiful card and flowers Tuesday and a great goody basket yesterday. I will definitely miss having my shadow. But the upside is that she is going to school in Nashville so hopefully we will keep in touch! Lunch today with her at one of my favorite places so I don't think it will be hard. =)

I was nervous when my boss told be that I would be precepting a baby nurse (you want me to teach them?!....Gulp!). However, I learned a lot from the experience and it solidified my desire to go back for my Ph. D in nursing so that I can continue the journey that will take me to teaching in some form or fashion. I've had some great role models in my life for teaching. I have an Uncle who teaches music in Illinois, an Aunt who retired from teaching music in Florida (both at the University level), and my grandmother  (dad's side) was also a teacher. Never thought I would be continuing that tradition! Now off to lunch :)

I hope every one is having a great summer!

Friday, June 28, 2013

Happy Birthday Dad

Today would have been Dad's 65th birthday. Seems so surreal that he's not there for me to call anymore. Many times in the past 4 months I've wanted to pick up the phone and talk to him. He always laughed when I shaved Lil man's hair into a mohawk in the summer. He would have been the perfect person to teach the girls how to drive a stick shift since not much rattled him driving wise. He did manage to teach me without losing his temper lol.

Dad and I didn't have the best of relationships. There was a lot of water and hurt under the bridge. I think we both wanted more but we didn't know how to get there. I think in some ways we were too much alike. Both of us kept our emotions close to our chests. There is a downfall to having poker faces. We hide the hurt others cause us and just soldier on. Doesn't necessarily make for healthy relationships sometimes.

I try to stay away from what ifs on this one. Just as I mourn for the loss of my Dad, I also mourn for what might have been. There are no guarantees that if things were different that they would be better. I just wish I would have been able to hear his voice one more time and have one more bear hug.

Miss you Dad.

Wednesday, June 12, 2013

It's that time again

Summer is almost officially here, which in our house means hydroplane season. We will be going to Madison, IN to watch the Madison Regatta the weekend after July 4th then turn around and go to the Detroit Gold Cup the following weekend. Regatta this year will be bittersweet without Tan being there with us, but I suppose I have to learn to deal with it. Who know's maybe we'll make it out to San Diego in September. That's always a possibility.

After the boat races we will be down in Manchester,Tn for the All American Mud run. I'll be honest. I've slacked off on training due to some scheduling issues and the fact that Kyle has too because he was sick, but it's time to get back on track before it bites us on the tail. Baby steps, that's what I keep telling myself.

August brings our 18th anniversary (my, where has the time gone). Would like to do something special but have no idea exactly what that would be. This fall Harlee will be a Junior and little man will me in 4th grade. He ended 3rd grade with AB honor roll and has told me he will be A honor roll next year (here's crossing my fingers). So glad to see the self-motivation this kid has with school, now if he would just apply that to his chores....

The job is still going well. I learn something new on a daily basis. Still looking at taking the GRE so I can begin my Ph.D, but it will be after I get the crew up here. There is just no way I could get all the classwork done while doing as much driving as I've been doing and still be sane at the end of it all. The more I work with patients and new nurses, the more I realize that I really want to teach still. So for now I will soak up as much as I can.

Hope everyone has a great day =)

Friday, May 31, 2013


As many of you know, I LOVE to read. The only downfall I've found to my Kindle is that the battery does not last near long enough for a prolonged reading session for me (which can span into the majority of the day if I don't watch it). So I'm hopping around the web this afternoon (yes, the Kindle is recharging as I write this), and I found this article on ETT aka Evacuated Tube Transport. 

My mind isn't blown per se, however it is already in overdrive factoring in the infrastructure and economic changes something like this would entail. Aside from the fact that it would make the Global courier business skyrocket, current delivery behemoths UPS, Fed-Ex, and DHL would seriously have to restructure. Airlines would be severely crippled, especially in light of skyrocketing fuel costs, mediocre earnings, and abyssmal customer ratings. There are other implications as well that aren't immediately apparent. What about the need to completely revamp Over-The-Road transportation currently used as a goods delivery system? If this is put into play, it has the potential to knock the trucking industry as we know it flat on it's proverbial tail. 

Now I know that some of you will immediately say "That's what the rail system does"...but does it do cross country in less than an hour? According to the article the time from NYC to Japan would be 2 hours. The rail system also has the inherent downfall of right of ways and easements at a cost effective price. That's one of the reasons that there is no rail service in the Middle Tennessee area other than the Nashville Star that runs from Lebanon, TN to Nashville & back. 

To put a healthcare spin on things, how bout if a kidney came available in Oregon and it was needed in Florida? Wow, what a turn around. 

What about the downside to this though? (I promise I'm not trying to be a 'Debbie Downer' here) Currently it can be difficult to trace pathogens through our current transportation system. Can you imagine the chaos with transportation this fast?

Either way I feel like I'm seeing something from Robert A. Heinlein's "Friday" come to life. Will be interesting to watch. 

What about you? What are the pro's and cons that you see with transportation like this?